A few years ago, my husband had been battling a nasty virus that had him in bed several days and feeling pretty weak. By the third day or so, he wanted to try moving around and attempted to take a shower. He probably should have taken it easy a little longer, because he ended up passing out and hitting his head. I heard the commotion and ran to the bathroom to find blood from where he’d hit the edge of the counter. We spent our Saturday morning in the ER so he could get staples to close the wound. It wasn’t how either of us would have liked to start the weekend, but I was so glad that I was there when it happened because he was too weak to take care of it himself.
Recently, I was having a very difficult time while grieving the loss of a loved one. The enemy saw my weak spirit and used it to his advantage, attacking me in all the ways that work remarkably well. I was so discouraged, and he placed doubts of self-worth in my mind. I began to shut people out around me and struggled to open up to anyone about these thoughts and feelings. Even if I wanted to, I really didn’t even know how to express it.
One particular afternoon, I felt an urge to reach out to a dear and close friend. Before I could talk myself out of it, I shot her a text and gave a brief summary of what was going on and asked her to keep me in her prayers. I kind of regretted sending the text as soon as I sent it, but I only expected a simple response of “Sure!” and then I’d be done with it. Instead, she asked if she could call me later that evening. I really didn’t want to talk about it at length, but I felt obligated at this point so I agreed.
That night our phone call lasted over two hours. I opened up to her and we talked, cried, and prayed together. She spoke life into my heart and lifted me when I was too weak to do it myself. I’m so grateful that my friend obeyed the prompting of the Holy Spirit because our conversation that night was a turning point for me and I finally felt the weight of grief and hopelessness begin to ease.
The value of having people around you who can lift you up- physically or spiritually- cannot be overestimated. Who wants to be alone when facing difficulty, or even when celebrating? Friends are often the people we vent to, cry with, and share our victories. If you have strong relationships with your family members, friends can beautifully enrich your life and offer different perspectives. If you don’t have those relationships with family, friends often step in and fill those roles and offer a sense of belonging and loyalty. This is even truer when these dear people pray with and for you when you are too weak to do it yourself. Ecclesiastes states it perfectly:
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
You’ve heard it said that two are better than one or that there is strength in numbers. That’s because when one just can’t keep going, the others can be the support that is desperately needed. And when that one regains their strength, they are able to encourage and help the next friend that needs it. Friendship can be a beautiful, never-ending circle of give and take.
If you haven’t already, find your squad/tribe/person/whatever name applies. Proverbs 27:17 says “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Surrounding yourself with Christian friends who will love you, pray with you, lovingly correct when necessary, and be there to pick you up when you falter will not only benefit you, but your walk with God will be better off for it as well. These precious friendships help us through the stickiness of life, but they also reflect the One who sticks closer than a brother and remind us that He will never leave or disappoint us.
Remember to BE that kind of friend as well. Be obedient to the Holy Spirit’s direction, even if you feel a little uncomfortable at first. Reach out to your dear friends today and let them know how grateful you are to have them a part of your life. If you don’t have these types of friendships in your life yet, make it a matter of prayer. When you ask God to bring you friendships that will honor Him, He will surely be faithful and you will be blessed.
About Tiffany Miller :
Tiffany Miller is a wife, stay at home mom to three little girls, and a writer. She fell in love with Jesus at a young age and grew up wanting to make a difference for Christ in her generation. God called her into full time ministry when she was a teenager, and over time that call was defined more specifically to be ministry to women. It is her desire for every woman to know how cherished they are by their Creator, and that they are never forgotten and never hidden from the one Who loves them most.