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    Mothering Mess

    I was thinking yesterday about being a mom and what I wish I had known earlier in my imperfect stint as a mother of three. The first thing that came to my mind was “the personalities.” Discovering this concept started me on the long journey to self-acceptance and knowing my true identity. I was eventually released from the comparison syndrome, performance trap and the self-worth roller coaster. Whew! Was I ever glad to get off that ride. Not that the enemy doesn’t try to ensnare me again but I’m much wiser to his tricks. You’re probably wondering, “What does that have to do with being a mom?” Well, it takes a lot of energy striving to be something you are not. Striving robs you of energy that could go toward being in the moment with your children, having fun and being creative. Being a perfectionist is time consuming, exhausting and anger producing. That’s time being
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    God Breathed

    Have you ever felt or sensed that God was breathing on you? Maybe not. I understand it may be a concept to which you haven’t given any thought. I’m not talking about feeling a gentle blowing of wind but a spiritual breath into your spirit. It’s like God is breathing life, hope, or belief back into your spirit. It may be a specific Word being spoken into your inner being with an accompanying dose of faith. The breathing could be the gentle blowing upon the dying embers of our godly passion. Or, it may be a gentle blowing of faith into the deflated lungs of doubt or disillusionment. Maybe it’s the blowing away of the cobwebs that have accumulated from a space being vacant far too long. Or, perhaps the place in our heart where hope is supposed to settle itself and take root but has faded and died. He
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    If Marie Was a Praying Woman

      The year was 1971. I was 19 years old. I had been married for two years. Yes, I was only 17 years old when Phil and I were married 47 years ago.  I graduated from high school at 15.  So I was already out of school and working when we were married. We’d dated all through high school. Our “dating” consisted of seeing each other at church. It’s true that we were WAY TOO YOUNG to be married, but we didn’t realize it at the time.  Phil was drafted in to the Vietnam War right out of high school. We wanted to be married before he left.  God helped us whenever we cried out to Him for help. And we cried out to Him for help several times a day. Truth is, we were married babies. One day we had a horrific, horrible, heinous argument. I don’t remember about
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    Things Aren’t Always as They Seem

    Things aren’t always as they seem. I was waiting in line to use the ladies room at Sheetz (it’s a gas station, in case you’re wondering.) There were two stalls and four people in line; I was the third. In one stall, in particular, there was a whole lot of commotion going on. I was thinking, “Oh lady! Please do not be sick, ‘cause I’m about to go in there!” The metal toilet paper dispenser was going crazy and it clearly sounded like someone was using a whole lot of ‘TP’. It began to smell in that bathroom and I’m not talking like Bath and Body Works. Anyway, the toilet paper dispenser was going crazy and the toilet flushed more than once… like four times! And I was next in line for the first available stall. I thought of letting the lady behind me go first, because that would be Christian-like
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    There is No Fear in Love

    1 John 4:18 “There’s no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear.” I’ve spent a good portion of my life being afraid, very afraid. At first, it was simple childhood fears like being afraid of the dark, afraid of being alone in a room, afraid of falling down stairs, afraid of doing things wrong and getting spanked. As I grew up, I became afraid of trying new things like sports, of getting bad grades and of speaking and reading. My timidity kept me quiet and blushing into my late teen years with a body that sometimes froze when faced with new challenges. The root of these fears were fear of the unknown and fear of rejection. I wanted to be perfect. Questions that often ran through my mind were: Will the other kids like me? Will I be smart and do well in school? Will I get married
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    A Pattern Not Worth Repeating

    Are you familiar with the phrase, “History repeats itself”? It’s not unusual to develop habits such as sleeping on the same side of the bed or taking the same route to work. You also develop patterns in your relationships and how you interact with others. Consciously or not, we create patterns of behavior that produce, for the most part, predictable outcomes. Some patterns may produce good results, such as working hard and earning promotions. Other behaviors may create the opposite of what you really desire and, when this happens, you can be caught up in a self-defeating or self-sabotaging pattern. Think about times when you’ve experienced disappointing or hurtful results. Focus on your behavior and how it seemed to end in loss, pain, grief, shame, guilt, fear, sadness, or a sense of defeat. Do you find yourself thinking, “Here I go again” or “Why does this always happen to me?”
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    When Routine is Robbing the Romance

    What do you do when you’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’ in your marriage? Maybe you truly adored your husband in the beginning, but now you can’t remember why. Maybe you honestly admired his finer qualities, but now you can’t remember what they were. Maybe you appreciated his wonderful attributes, but now you take them for granted. Between taking out the garbage, paying the bills, running the car pool, mowing the lawn, disciplining the kids, and folding the laundry, sometimes the passion of marriage gets lost. It happens to all of us at one time or another. We can get so busy taking care of life that we forget to take care of love. None of us got married so we could have a long list of chores. If you’re like me, most likely you got married because you were madly in-love and couldn’t imagine life without your man! You got
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